Power Corrupts. PowerPoint Corrupts Absolutely.Edward Tufte
Jerry Seinfeld in talk with Tim Ferris said this about writing:
When you write something (or create anything worth sharing), be kind to yourself as you have just accomplished a difficult task. Savor the feeling of having done something good. In case you share that with someone and they find problems with it, your sense of achievement would go down the drain immediately. Instead, sleep on it and wait for 24 hours before sharing it. After such a duration, you would be more open to getting critiqued and you can also go through it again to make it better. Shipping immediately isn’t the best when it comes to creative arts.
This applies to everything except cooking. That’s why Twitter might not be the right medium for being actually creative. Meme-making might work there but not art.
Peter Shankman of ‘Faster Than Normal’ says:
Think about it (problems) like a leaky faucet that’s overflowing the sink onto your kitchen floor: you could spend all your time constantly cleaning up the water that’s destroying your floor (i.e., fixing the things that happened because a trigger set you off) or you could fix the leak in the first place. Fixing the leak is a lot easier, right?
Often when things go awry, we tend to blame non-important things instead of fixing the source. Finding the source might not always be hard if we really try.
I am not intending to impart wisdom here. I am just reminding myself of this. 🙂
In this post on the A Learning A Day daily blog by Rohan Rajiv the Pygmalion Effect is mentioned.
Pygmalion Effect, also called Rosenthal effect, says that if you and everyone around you believe in something, there are more chances of you making it happen. In other words, high expectation lead to better results while lower expectations lead to poorer. It is a bit similar to the Placebo effect in Medical Science.
Right now, there are 3 or more Vaccines with high efficacy are peeking from the horizon. While there are skeptics, there’s a huge populace which is betting on its success. Even if they end up being reasonable in effectiveness, this effect might make it more effective.
Same thing works with confidence. Isn’t it?
This has to become THE mantra for anytime things don’t go right:
When You Complain, Nobody Wants to Help You.Stephen Hawking
This is one powerful message to change perspectives.
I generally don’t think long-term. I do have ambitions and I have a general plan but there is no more irksome question than “Where do you see yourself after 5 years?”. Memes about this question being asked in 2015 are already aplenty. All your plans, goals, and targets crumble as soon as a personal calamity occurs.
Just a day after Diwali 78% people of my family fell sick which totally ruined all the festivities. The scare is still hanging in the balance and the road to recovery is still a few weeks longer. This has totally toppled everyone’s plans, goals, and targets and now everyone is looking for short-term betterment.
I recently read: Your Life in Weeks (https://waitbutwhy.com/2014/05/life-weeks.html). Summarizing it below:
Think about your life. Divide it into weeks (or months or years or decades). If you are already in your 30s, 33% of your life has already gone. The majority of the time you spent with your parents, your real friends, and your hobbies might already be spent. Many of the attempts are already being used up as we speak.
But, it is not all bad. We still have 66% of the life left. That is actually good. The most satisfactory time is yet to come your way. Your earlier time might have been for your own self. Maybe, now is the time to think about others. Now might be the time when you can guide others to lead their lives better. Now might be the time when you can devote to your latent hobbies. The others can be anyone you care for.
We will always be short of time. But there might be a wee bit of time in your week left to spend thinking about others. Think of your life in weeks or months or years or decades. Many greats achieved their highs in their careers in 2nd halves of their lives. So can we.
There will be a mixed bag of news coming our way as we grow older. Many of them would be out of our control anyway. So, instead of saying why me, we can change our perspective and think about what can be done to change the next few coming weeks, or years, or decades. But don’t reply to the dreaded question about where do you see yourself after 5 years as the answer remains: In the mirror.